It’s been a busy day… several projects slowly inch forward, all hampered by the others. But it would not be right to simply call it a day at the end of just another busy day without stopping to note that among everything else I did today, I did not sing ‘Happy Birthday’.
Today would have been my brother’s 33rd birthday. He passed on almost two years ago after a long fight with Leukemia. Even now… I can barely see the screen through the tears as I write the words.
Darin was always the more popular, the social one. In a small town of 3600, I think he must’ve known them all. Or at least of them. And quite a few from nearby towns as well. I always wanted him (and my parents) to leave that little burg that a job my Dad no longer has brought us to when I was in gradeschool. But Darin saw something in that place that I didn’t. He didn’t see the run-down shops and the lack of just about everything, to him it was a town full of interesting people. Some he liked, some he quite vocally did not like. And the reverse was also true.
As social as he was, he never had great luck with women. He had his share of girlfriends, but wore his heart on his sleeve for the one that got away. Two failed marriages left no kids behind… and I’m sure that he really wanted the kids more than the wives.
Last weekend we visited my parents’ house–just as we would have done for the birthday party we didn’t have. We had the cookout he would’ve enjoyed, relatives came over that he would’ve loved to get stories and secrets out of, even ate homemade ice cream… all that was missing was the red velvet cake that marked a party as Darin’s Birthday.
Instead, this year Jason was the center of attention. Now, he is the social one, and at age two he already has a gift for remembering the names of most of the kids and adults at the day care. No, I’m not suggesting he takes Darin’s place, or that anyone could, but in a way his presence been good for all of us.
We first found out about him–just a possibility of a placement–the week after Darin passed away. He’s given us all something to focus on… and his happy laughter over the weekend covered what might otherwise have been pained silences. God blessed us in a very special way with Jason, in so many ways in fact… and while we’d been trying for so long to have children, He withheld the timing till it was right, and needed as much as wanted.
Of course, knowing Darin, it could be that he put in a good word with the Big Guy once he got up there. I wouldn’t put it past him to try.